Thank You

You encouraged me….I haven’t felt so supported in 10 years…. I didn’t feel like I was alone [in the work].

Olga Matsouki

Alone Ain’t Human

When asked “Why are humans created this way that they are very vulnerable from behind?” Adam Wu responds:

The human has a SUPER EFFECTIVE adaption for protecting their rear. One so powerful that when properly deployed it makes humans one of the least vulnerable creatures on the planet to being attacked from behind.

It [sic] layman’s terms, it is known as “a buddy watching your six”.

Take away that adaptation by forcing the human to be alone, and you’ve nerfed the poor thing.

Calling him “vulnerable from behind” in this context is about as fair as claiming that a de-fanged a sabertooth cat was “created” with a weak bite, or that a de-finned Megalodon was “created” to be a poor swimmer.

Adam Wu

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Important, particularly in the independence-is-best western culture. Another quote comes to mind:

…they’re sharing a drink they call loneliness
But it’s better than drinkin’ alone

Billy Joel

We need each other. Maybe un-obviously, being our best selves allows us to be what we can be in support of each other’s journeys. And journeying together can help us be our best selves.

We’re all just walking each other home.

Ram Dass

A LifeSite™

What’s a LifeSite™? Most websites are specialized. A LifeSite is about wholeness. Expect a mess. I don’t buy into the neat-and-tidy model of human experience. I’m more about growth and the <a href=wabi-sabi life that it produces.

Over time, I will create new (and update existing) ways that highlight specific threads in my life’s tapestry. What is interesting to you might not be readily available yet. Don’t sweat it. A LifeSite isn’t about having it all figured out for either of us. Contact me directly and we can talk about your interests. I prefer that anyway:

 

Here’s the post that introduces this incarnation of this site: Personal Coherence and Integration. It gives a little more background into the nature of a LifeSite as I currently understand it.

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Prosperous Coach (Again)

I’m going through the Prosperous Coach again. Now that I’m finally able to build this coaching practice, there’s a ton coming to the surface that is valuable to me. Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin are so wonderfully committed and challenging. I’m sharing here just to share; thinking out loud with my fingers. If you find any order in the following, I don’t know how it got there.

From Chapter 8: Loving the “hard” part

The second paragraph catches my eye. Rich’s model doesn’t quite fit for me:

From “The Prosperous Coach” by Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin

This one is closer:

From “The Prosperous Coach” by Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin

Here’s where my model is at the moment:

Rich’s second diagram certainly allows for this. Contrarianism-R’nt-Us. For me, it’s more about discovering a client. That discovery process doesn’t stop when some kind of coaching agreement is in place any more than it ends when we don’t interact as often. I’m interested in those around me because I’m interested in those around me. My discovering them is my discovering me. That we arrange ourselves in such a way to work more closely together is only a phase change in the process of human beings discovering one another and themselves. In other words, a declared relationship allows us to attend to that process more deliberately — and it is a modification instead of a metamorphosis. The miracles simply show up more quickly.

From Chapter 10: Cultivate deep foundations

To become highly successful as a coach, you need to master three disciplines Rich Litvin

For me, the three disciplines are not separate and, in some important ways, not distinct. They are overlapping facets of the same gem; they exist together or not at all.

To be more specific, creating clients is about helping someone discover currently unavailable resources. That’s the definition of coaching. An inability to connect with that which will help them take the next step is what’s in the way. “Creating Clients” is coaching. It’s a search for a human being — which, by the way, is the definition of deep inner work. I am searching for me as I am searching for them. All fear and excitement that rises in me is the fear and excitement rising within them. Them finding me is them finding themselves. Me finding them is me finding myself.

Just a word or two on “mastery” from Rich’s quote. For me, mastery is a journey. I’m building a coaching practice; I have no interest in a coaching factory.

From Chapter 43

But I promised myself that I was never going back to work in an organization. I was never again going to have a boss. Rich Litvin

For me, I’d be beyond happy to work in an organization which supported a boss who was seeing to my growth and well-being and the growth and well-being of my family.

Done For Now (5-Mar-2018 9:35am)

Not sure when I’ll be back to work through the rest of the book. I think you can subscribe to this post if you’re interested.

Orlando, Florida, United States of America

The Music Man Yet Again

Just heard yesterday that Hailey’s been invited to play in the pit for a production of The Music Man. She says the music is difficult, copious, and doable. What a pro.

Of course I immediately returned to my high school stage crew experiences with the show. I ran spot, keeping Elisa Hartman well-lit. I enjoyed returning the favor ;).

We’ve decided to celebrate with Hailey by watching the 1962 film.

I learned the soundtrack from the 8-track we had in the car years before ever seeing the movie. Great memories.

I sure hope they record the performance. Break a leg, Hailey.

West Jefferson, Ohio, United States of America

Healing the Achilles?

Katie’s corrective osteotomy of a couple of years ago may very well be bringing her to a heel cord lengthening procedure. Now that dorsiflexion is possible, it seems the tendon is inhibiting it. In other words, her Achilles tendon is becoming her Achilles heel. We will try a stretching brace first.

Orlando, Florida, United States of America

Getting Paid as a Coach

I don’t care about money. It’s the system we created to take care of each other if we have a mind to. It’s the give and take of care that’s interesting to me. As I coach and as I’m coached, I give and receive value; part of that value is given and received as money. It’s just the current system. What’s the big deal? Either we care for each other or we don’t. At base, money has nothing to do with it. Chip Nowacek