I just finished James Gleick’s Chaos and am starting it again. This is more than a metaphor for families and their advisors. Messages of entropy are true — and not particularly useful.
You encouraged me….I haven’t felt so supported in 10 years…. I didn’t feel like I was alone [in the work].
Alone Ain’t Human
When asked “Why are humans created this way that they are very vulnerable from behind?” Adam Wu responds:
The human has a SUPER EFFECTIVE adaption for protecting their rear. One so powerful that when properly deployed it makes humans one of the least vulnerable creatures on the planet to being attacked from behind.
It [sic] layman’s terms, it is known as “a buddy watching your six”.
Take away that adaptation by forcing the human to be alone, and you’ve nerfed the poor thing.
Calling him “vulnerable from behind” in this context is about as fair as claiming that a de-fanged a sabertooth cat was “created” with a weak bite, or that a de-finned Megalodon was “created” to be a poor swimmer.
Important, particularly in the independence-is-best western culture. Another quote comes to mind:
…they’re sharing a drink they call loneliness
But it’s better than drinkin’ alone
We need each other. Maybe un-obviously, being our best selves allows us to be what we can be in support of each other’s journeys. And journeying together can help us be our best selves.
We’re all just walking each other home.
Prosperous Coach (Again)
I’m going through the Prosperous Coach again. Now that I’m finally able to build this coaching practice, there’s a ton coming to the surface that is valuable to me. Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin are so wonderfully committed and challenging. I’m sharing here just to share; thinking out loud with my fingers. If you find any order in the following, I don’t know how it got there.
From Chapter 8: Loving the “hard” part
The second paragraph catches my eye. Rich’s model doesn’t quite fit for me:
This one is closer:
Here’s where my model is at the moment:
Rich’s second diagram certainly allows for this. Contrarianism-R’nt-Us. For me, it’s more about discovering a client. That discovery process doesn’t stop when some kind of coaching agreement is in place any more than it ends when we don’t interact as often. I’m interested in those around me because I’m interested in those around me. My discovering them is my discovering me. That we arrange ourselves in such a way to work more closely together is only a phase change in the process of human beings discovering one another and themselves. In other words, a declared relationship allows us to attend to that process more deliberately — and it is a modification instead of a metamorphosis. The miracles simply show up more quickly.
From Chapter 10: Cultivate deep foundations
To become highly successful as a coach, you need to master three disciplines Rich Litvin
For me, the three disciplines are not separate and, in some important ways, not distinct. They are overlapping facets of the same gem; they exist together or not at all.
To be more specific, creating clients is about helping someone discover currently unavailable resources. That’s the definition of coaching. An inability to connect with that which will help them take the next step is what’s in the way. “Creating Clients” is coaching. It’s a search for a human being — which, by the way, is the definition of deep inner work. I am searching for me as I am searching for them. All fear and excitement that rises in me is the fear and excitement rising within them. Them finding me is them finding themselves. Me finding them is me finding myself.
Just a word or two on “mastery” from Rich’s quote. For me, mastery is a journey. I’m building a coaching practice; I have no interest in a coaching factory.
From Chapter 43
But I promised myself that I was never going back to work in an organization. I was never again going to have a boss. Rich Litvin
For me, I’d be beyond happy to work in an organization which supported a boss who was seeing to my growth and well-being and the growth and well-being of my family.
Done For Now (5-Mar-2018 9:35am)
Not sure when I’ll be back to work through the rest of the book. I think you can subscribe to this post if you’re interested.
Getting Paid as a Coach
I don’t care about money. It’s the system we created to take care of each other if we have a mind to. It’s the give and take of care that’s interesting to me. As I coach and as I’m coached, I give and receive value; part of that value is given and received as money. It’s just the current system. What’s the big deal? Either we care for each other or we don’t. At base, money has nothing to do with it. Chip Nowacek
Rebuttal of “5 People Who Shouldn’t Be Your Weight-Loss Coach”
The July 28th, 2016 Women’s Health article by Alexandria Gomez needs a different title:
If a Registered Dietician Isn’t Your Guru, You’re Messing Up.
Ms. Gomez would you have you believe the R.D.s have it all figured out. If that were so, why is such an article necessary? That’s not so say R.D.s can’t be helpful; they can — and weight ain’t all about what you eat. Sorry. Ask an R.D. to address why you eat what you eat. Just ask.
Let’s try this another way: do people who smoke know smoking is bad for their health? Do you eat stuff you know is contrary to your well-being?
I think maybe it would forward the mission of this blog by including Twitter and posting here less frequently. Let’s see how it goes.
I’m @chipnowacek on Twitter.
The Investment of Time
The only asset* is human time. It follows that, individually, our days are our only raw, natural resource. Here is the system we are now employing for making decisions about how time is invested.
- Every period of time to invest is reviewed before it begins
- Each review is of a duration and happens within a window according to the following table.
- In situations where review windows overlap (e.g. Sunday weekly review and Monday review), the review of the longer period happens before the window of the shorter opens.
|Period||Review Duration||Review Window|
|Day||5-15 minutes||6 hours|
|Week||45-60 minutes||1 day (Sunday)|
|Month||3 hours||3 days|
|Quarter||4-5 hours||4 days|
|Year||2 days||1 week|
*I’ll discuss money in another post — or I already have.
“The Accomplishments of the Viktor Schreckengost Studios” is available
Nine plus years in the making, I am happy to announce the availability of a very important document. Accomplishments of the Viktor Schreckengost Studios is an overview of the activities of the entity created for the conservation, cataloging, and sharing of the legacy of Viktor Schreckengost, America’s Da Vinci. The document is a tribute to the 397 organizations and 1023 individuals, who, like me, believe Viktor Schreckengost is a wonder of the modern world and feel his influence can still make a difference in yet millions of more lives.
The document itself is 136 pages long, most of those pages being in the appendices. The summaries at the beginning take just a couple of minutes to skim. If you have essentially no time, please just take in the preface and the personal and organizational acknowledgements which I have republished on this blog in separate posts. You can use the search function on this site to find your name or organization.
There are two documents available:
- Accomplishments of the Viktor Schreckengost Studios (for print)
- Accomplishments of the Viktor Schreckengost Studios (for screen)
They are both PDF files. They differ only in the orientation of the graphics within them.
I have given up, for time time being, trying to get the print version of the document available on Lulu.com. Lulu is particular and not very willing to help sort things out. If you know someone who understands the ins and outs of pdf files and pre-press work, I’d sure appreciate the lead.
Thousands of thank yous to those who made contributions large and small. We couldn’t have done it without you.
Love and Respect,